Lots have been written about Ukrainian women. Adjectives like feminine, traditional, graceful, and, of course, beautiful are typically thrown around.
And, after living here for more than five years (before being forced out by the current events), I have to say that I must agree. They’re all that. They easily represent all those adjectives.
But, like anything else, it’s not that simple, with femininity and beauty comes increased responsibility and other things. Dating Ukrainian women automatically exposes you to things that you may not be aware of.
But, still, it’s great to be single in a country with so many beautiful women running around. I honestly don’t know what I would do if I was married or in a serious relationship.
In this article, I want to share with you my experiences, what I learned, and the general do’s and don’ts of dating some of the most beautiful, sexiest and feminine women that have graced this fine earth.
Ukrainian women characteristics
In the face of the rapidly Westernizing world, Ukrainian women are still relatively traditional.
Now, of course, Western influences and Westernization are sweeping across the world and, unless you’ve been living in a cave for the past twenty years, you’ll discover that Ukrainian women are also watching shows like Sex And The City, taking CrossFit classes and dreaming about Gucci bags.
They are, no matter how little the like it, very much like Russian women in this regard.
But that’s where the similarities between Ukrainian and Western women end. 99.9% of Ukrainian women absolutely want to get married and have kids. That’s unlike America where things like career easily take precedence over having marriage and kids.
In America, it’s perfectly normal to be a woman who’s 35 or 45 and not be married or have kids; there’s absolutely no stigma there.
In Ukraine, however, this would be considered weird or strange. Not long ago, Ukrainian women used to get married around the age of 25, nowadays, this occurs closer to the age of 30.
If a Ukrainian woman approaches the crucial age of 28-30 and still hasn’t gotten married (while most of her friends have), the outside pressure is so high that she starts to believe that something is wrong and her behavior will change accordingly.
For women in Ukraine, the rush is on to get married and have kids by the age of 30.
Where to meet Ukrainian women
Ukrainian women are easygoing and fairly receptive to be approached out and about so it’s usually not a problem to meet them out in public in places like the street, coffee shops, restaurants, stores, etc.
I’ve met lots of women in all of the above places so it’s not like one place is better than another.
My absolute favorite online website to meet Ukrainian women is Ukraine Date. Ukraine Date is a site where I’ve met a handful of amazing women who went on to become my girlfriends. I also know plenty of guys who met amazing Ukrainian women; some even married them.
Regardless what you’re looking for, whether it’s a short-term fling, a girlfriend or a wife, definitely check out Ukraine Date for an amazing selection of Ukrainian women to date and even get serious with. You won’t be disappointed.
Ukrainian Women in a Relationship
A lot of our readers hail from the Western countries such as America, Canada, and the UK and are naturally curious about what’s dating like in Eastern Europe and, naturally, in countries like Ukraine. Here’s what to expect.
Ukrainian dating culture
First of all, it’s important to understand that a lot of such dating is completely informal. A lot of women usually meet men through their social circles, and, therefore, dating typically doesn’t happen.
A woman sees a guy in her social circle and, after meeting him often enough, enters a relationship with him. Maybe this happens over a period of several months or even over a period of several years.
As a foreigner who will arrive in the country without any social connections or contacts, your situation will naturally be different.
You can’t rely on coworkers or friends to meet women, so you will have to seek them out yourself. For that, we highly recommend meeting women on Ukraine Date. Naturally, this would mean you’ll have to go on dates with these women.
When it comes to dating Ukrainian women, there’s the typical 3-day rule that you may be already familiar with.
This means you should be getting some action on the third date at the latest. If you’ve dated her three times and still didn’t get any action, there’s a very slim chance you’ll get action and you should cut her loose and stop all contact.
Thankfully, as a result of dating lots and lots of women, I developed a certain system when it comes to dating women. For the first date, I typically like to meet up at one of the Italian-style restaurants for a glass of wine or two.
There are some girls that don’t drink (or say they don’t drink), in that case, we just have some tea or coffee.
I try to eat beforehand, so I don’t end up ordering food in a restaurant and letting the girl do the same. I don’t really like dates where eat and prefer dates where we can just have a few glasses of wine and enjoy ourselves.
For the second date, I may invite her to take a walk in the park or to check out another bar where they have really good cider. It really depends on the overall vibe and feeling that I have with this woman.
Typically, by the second date, you should have a pretty good idea whether this girl is into you or not.
By this time, hopefully, you should’ve have gotten physical with the girl and also hopefully gotten a kiss or two.
It would be quite strange to go on several dates with the girl and not even touch each other. If that’s the case, you may be dangerously inching closer to a friend’s zone.
After each date, you should be asking a girl back to your place. Although she may refuse to go back to your place after the first date, it shows that you view her in a sexual way and aren’t content with just going on innocent dates with and sipping some coffee.
For the third – and hopefully final date – I like to invite her back to my place. Typically what I like to do is suggest we buy a bottle of wine and head back to my place. A woman understands what this means and she would either agree to this or she wouldn’t.
Usually, if she agrees to meet up on the third date, and you’ve already kissed before, that means she’s probably interested in you and she’ll accept your invitation.
Out of all the women that I invited back to my place, whether it was the second or third date, I only remember one or two girls that didn’t want to go further once there. You will absolutely have girls like this, so don’t be discouraged! That’s just part of the game.
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What to do on a date
As a foreigner, you will be subject to greater scrutiny by women than local guys. Ukrainian women know why you’re in the country – to get them.Thus, they’ll be aggressively screening for guys who are here just to have sex and bounce out.
Obviously, they will be some women who just want to have fun and enjoy life, but if the woman you’re meeting is seeking some kind of relationship, her questions will be of different nature and she’ll be carefully evaluating your responses.
The most common question you will get is “What are you doing in this country?” You will receive this question from women who’re interested in more serious intentions.
Another type of question you might get is, “When and how long was your last relationship?” This is a type of question that a woman who is looking for a relationship would ask.
Even if you’re not looking for a relationship, you should still hint that you would be willing to settle down with a quality woman anyway.
In terms of answering this question, I would just say that my last relationship was one year ago and it lasted for one year or something like that.
After that, the woman might ask you why the relationship ended. She needs to understand if it was you or her that initiated the breakup.
Typically, if you were in a long-term relationship and you initiated the breakup, the woman would want to know why that happened so the same doesn’t happen to her.
Ukrainian dating red flags
If you’re courting a woman, it’s crucial to be aware of the common red flags. These are signs that a woman gives off when her interest in you is lukewarm at best.
Don’t pursue (or actively pursue) women who wait too long before replying to your messages or calls.
While I understand that people are busy and everyone is trying to do a million things at once, I don’t like to wait too long for responses from anyone. Call me impatient, but I typically don’t bother pursuing women who take hours to reply (or, worse, days). Obviously, that means she’s got more important things to do than to meet a new man.
Don’t do day dates.
The second red flag is when a woman suggests to meet up during the day (because she’s “busy” at night).
As I wrote above, day dates are not ideal for a magnitude of reasons. I usually schedule my dates for 7-8pm, which is not too early but also not too late (in case she needs to wake up early the next day).
So, if a woman categorically refuses to meet at around 7-8pm, I take it as a sign that she’s not too interested and has better options.
Don’t meet her on her terms.
Another red flag is when a woman is unwilling to meet up in a place you suggest (typically the center or a centralized neighborhood of the city).
I mostly rent apartments in the center of every city that I stay in. But because it’s fairly expensive to live in the center of any city, many locals can’t afford to have a pad in the center and, instead, live in more remote neighborhoods.
Naturally, I always propose to have a date in the center simply because there are more things to do; it’s the center after all.
Even if you’re not based in the center, you should still offer to meet there. The only exception is if you’re both located outside the center but live close to each other.
But generally, when a woman doesn’t want to meet in the center – where you propose and where all the action is – it means she’s not willing to put in the effort to see you, pure and simple. Move on.
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Avoid women who aren’t happy in Ukraine and want to immigrate to another country
As a foreigner, you will be a natural target for such women. And I am not speaking now about those who want to leave because of the terrible, current situation in the country. I am talking about Ukrainian girls who’s only goal was to “escape” even before that.
Many Ukrainian women believe that Western countries like America or England are exponentially better for having a quality life because in those places “money grows on trees” and great-paying jobs are everywhere.
It’s much better to meet a woman who’s already happy where she is right now and isn’t itching to pack up and move somewhere new.
A woman who’s well-established in her country and city would make a better long-term partner than someone who’s constantly itching to move – especially if at least part of her reasoning for the move is based on her partner’s money.
6 Problems with Ukrainian women
It’s not all peaches and cream in Ukraine. While, for the most part, Ukrainian women are awesome, there are certain things you must be aware off.
Because I want to be honest with you, I don’t want to end this article without telling you about all the issues you may face on your quest to finding a great woman.
1. They are very materialistic
This is the biggest problem of all. Nowhere else have I met women that are materialistic as Ukrainian women.
They love pointing out what their friends got from their boyfriends. “Oh, Svetlana got a really nice necklace from Igor” or “Can you believe Irina has a new Channel bag courtesy of Vlad?”
It’s all about status and it’s super important for the girl to have all the nice things to compete with other females.
They will also have no qualms about guilting you into buying them something expensive. Believe me, when I tell you, they have lots of psychological tools in their arsenal.
They will tell you that one of her friend’s boyfriend got his woman something expensive. They will tell you that one of their girlfriend’s boyfriend bought her the latest iPhone.
If you refuse, they will also say things like, “You don’t think I deserve it?” or “Should I ask someone else to buy it for me?”
I can tell you that if you don’t buy it for her, and she really wants something, she’ll find someone else to buy it for her. It’s an automatic given.
2. They can be extremely jealous
I remember when I was seeing this one girl. We’ve been seeing each other for only a few weeks.
One day, she was over my house. I didn’t take the relationship super seriously, so I set up another date for the evening because I knew this girl would be going home soon.
I went to take a shower and left my phone on the table. When I got out, the girl was super upset.
After prying out the reason, apparently, she unlocked my phone and saw all my messages. (I still don’t know how she unlocked my phone but maybe she knew my phone’s pin code).
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3. They care about their appearance a little too much
If you come to Ukraine, you must be blind to not notice this phenomenon: women always posing and photographing each other. It’s everywhere. At the beaches. At the clubs. At the coffee shops. At the restaurants. Everywhere.
Obviously, this has its cons and pros. On one hand, it’s great. It’s nice when women care about appearance so much that they always make sure they’re dressed to the nines everywhere they go. This sure isn’t the case in America.
On the other hand, it means it takes almost forever for women to get ready. It also means spending tons of money on expensive clothes and make-up or even beauty-enhancing surgeries. It means being uncompromising when it comes to looking your absolute best at any cost.
I often met women in their late 20s/early 30s who already did various procedures like botox in order, as they put it, “offset the effects of aging.” Crazy.
4. They have extremely poor finance and planning skills
Ukraine is a country where a woman who’s making around $300/month will have no problems saving up all that money and buying a $1,000 iPhone while having absolutely no money left over for anything else.
I’ve met women who had zero savings because they spend their paychecks on stuff like clothes, bags and makeup every month.
Fortunately, they don’t need to pay rent because they’re either living with their parents or because their parents owned the apartment which got passed onto to them. But still, prepare for little to no financial education there.
5. They consider your money to be their money and their money to be also their money
So, the unwritten rule when it comes to finances in Ukraine is that the money the husband or boyfriend makes can be used by both parties.
But, the money that the woman makes can only be used by the woman. That’s the money that she can use for her pet projects.
6. They will have no problems dumping you for a richer, more successful man
So, what would happen if you have a hot girlfriend but one day you come home depressed because you were demoted or lost your job altogether?
She might console you – but only temporarily. Thing is, Ukrainian women aren’t used to moving down in status. If they have a standard of living. And that standard of living allows them to buy nice things, go to nice restaurants with their girlfriends, and have a great life.
Well, how do you think she would feel if she suddenly weren’t able to do that? You really think she’s going to be perfectly fine with that?
Of course not. While she may seem understanding on the surface. Trust me: your relationship’s days are limited. Unless you can get back on your feet quickly, she will be entertaining other suitors.
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Ukrainian women: the bottom line
Ukrainian women are awesome. I honestly don’t think I’ve been in another country which had as many beautiful women as in Ukraine. Not only that but their traditional background also makes them excellent wife material.
Nevertheless, I would be lying if I finished this guide without mentioning the negatives. First of all, there’s a noticeable transactional element when it comes to your relationship with your Ukrainian girlfriend.
Sometimes you don’t know what’s going on but feel something is off. Maybe you feel that a woman is trying to use or play you, or maybe she’s fantastic but you’re not crazy about her. The solution is to let her ago and keep looking. There are plenty more fish where that came from. Don’t waste your time on “maybe’s.”
Now over to you: what is your experience with Ukrainian women? Comment below and let us all know.